The first step to getting your ex back

In the previous post I showed you what NOT to do, now I will guide you through the first steps of the process of reviving your relationship.

The first step in this process is to stop all communication with them for a certain period of time. This is vital.

Don't worry, they will not forget you for that period. In the same way that you won't forget them. Generally it's hard to forget a relationship.

Basically cutting off the communication will do two things, which are both in your favor:
1. It will show them that you are strong. Maybe even you have moved on? You do not need them. This will attract their attention.
2. You will have the time to pull yourself together, do the things that will make you more centered in your own life and most importantly start thinking reasonably about getting your ex. You will have a PLAN and you will know what to do.

This period of no contact may be anything from 2 weeks up to 1 month, depending how much time has passed until you broke up.

So what are you going to do during this time?

You are going to... relax. You will start to accept the idea that for now you are not with that person anymore. You are single. Accept that fact. Don't resist it.
There is a simple distinction you can make right now that will help you to get your ex and will help you for your whole life - Panicking and resisting emotionally doesn't help you. Take responsibility for your state of mind.

I will help you regain your natural composure in the next post with a very simple yet effective technique.

Next- start living your own life. Do exactly what you want to do, whether it's a sport that you like, a job that you love, anything. Realize that your life is pretty dandy even without your ex. You cannot fake this one. You have to experience it.

If you are reading this, you have already decided that you want your ex back. So now what you need to do is to understand what went wrong in your relationship.
What was the core reason that made you guys break up?

You need to know it, because if you don't they will leave you again. What you need to keep them is to become a better person for yourself, not for them. If you too broke up, that means that they weren't getting something that they craved from that relationship.

Men and women both have different emotional needs that they satisfy through the relationships they enter. Figure out what was missing in the puzzle of your relationship and make a decision to cultivate that side of yourself.

Now, the other thing you would want to do while you are not contacting your ex is to have fun with your friends. Go out, socialize, meet new people if you want to. Don't do it with the idea of making your ex know that you are doing those things. Do it for yourself.

All of those things may seem basic and small, but they are of major importance. When you start doing them you will notice the change in your attitude towards life. This change will be the driving force for the application of your...

Your PLAN for winning your ex back.

Seymour S.